Gretchen. I don’t have the answers to this as we have the same problem, but on the specific subject of ‘virtual socials’, I am finding that mixing up the type of virtual social events we have is helping, as is reducing the frequency of them.
We have weekly virtual team lunches that virtually no-one attends anymore, but we ran a virtual team ‘pub quiz’ last week and this was really popular and has been re-requested, so it could be a case of trying lots of different virtual activities until you find the popular ones.
The other thing we’ve done is to create a social committee delegating some of the organising of social events to staff, realising that they might be more in touch than we are.